5 Gentlemanly Gestures

The high value attributed to being a gentleman has been diminished in recent times, with the need to balance good gentlemanly conduct with respecting a woman’s equality. Many men shy away from traditional "chivalric" gestures, for fear of being labeled a misogynist. The lack of suitable role models to show us how to behave has made true gentlemen increasingly rare. 

Today, we will attempt to redress that balance, by showing you 5 of the most important gentlemanly gestures to use when you are on a date. These are sometimes subtle, but always significant, ways of showing a woman that you are attentive, respectful and well-mannered. Of course, many of them are habits which can be cultivated in any situation -- we should all strive to be gentlemen at all times -- but they are particularly important when you are in the company of a lady. Performing these 5 gentlemanly gestures will go a very long way to ensuring that your first date won’t be your last.  

No.5 Offer Your Jacket

When a woman makes the considerable effort of getting dressed for a date, practicality is not always her first consideration. There are occasions when that dress, while dazzling, simply does not provide adequate protection from inclement climactic conditions. If you notice that it is a cold or wet evening, as a gentleman you should immediately offer her your jacket. She may refuse, but be attentive to the fact that she may get colder, and do not be afraid to repeat your offer should the weather worsen. Again, as a gentleman, if you are feeling the cold, grin and bear it. The comfort of your lady is your first priority. 

No.4 Watch Your Language

A very important point which is increasingly overlooked in the modern world, inappropriate language is not acceptable on a date. A gentleman should pride himself on being erudite and articulate, and be capable of expressing himself without resorting to crude vocabulary. Not only does this demonstrate intelligence, but it also indicates that you have high standards for yourself and for the people you are around. This rule can be extended to include using overly long words that you don’t even understand. Nothing will make you look more foolish than using a malapropism in an attempt to show off.

No.3 Offer Your Seat

Everyone who has a sense of decency would not fail to offer their seat on a bus or train to an elderly person, or a pregnant lady. However, you can go one step further by offering your seat to your date. This is a good one because it shows that you are putting her welfare ahead of your own. The best way to do this is to stand up before offering your seat, rather than making the offer and then standing up. Try not to be too ostentatious, as she may feel uncomfortable if you inadvertently draw attention to her. 

No.2 Introduce Her

Much like taking a call and ignoring her, if you fail to introduce her to someone you bump into, she is left feeling isolated and uncomfortable. A gentleman will always make sure that his date is feeling comfortable, and an important part of this is having the social awareness to introduce her to your friend or acquaintance. All you need do is pause briefly to say her name, and position your body so she is included in the conversation. Even if she says nothing, she will feel more involved and more comfortable.

No.1 Hold The Door

When surveyed, around 90% of women regard this as the No. 1 gentlemanly gesture. It is a very simple one, but makes a woman feel respected. Generally speaking, you should always hold the door for someone entering behind you. Once again, it shows respect for other people, which reflects well on you as a person. An important note to remember is that you should not race your date to get to the door first; this appears try-hard and condescending. As with all these gestures, making them a natural part of your behavior is essential to ensure that your date receives it positively. 

by STEVEN SHAW

5 Ways To Blow It With A Beautiful Woman

Once you've started a conversation with a beautiful woman, then it's really game on. The door's open, so you better step through fast or it will slam closed again. Just one Wuss move or lame line and she'll move on to the next guy in line. With that in mind, here are the top 5 ways to blow it with a beautiful woman.

No.5 Asking Her If She Likes You

It hurts just writing this one. If I had to pick out the single most disastrous question a man can ask, the one guaranteed to shut down any woman’s attraction for good, this is it. Asking her, "Do you like me?" is the total opposite of everything I teach. It's the opposite of being confident; it's the opposite of being in control; it's the opposite of being a man. So, don’t ask -- just assume it. Proceed as if she does like you; after all, you'll find out the truth soon enough.

No.4 Asking Her What She Wants To Do

The old saying that women love a “man with a plan” couldn't be more true -- especially for beautiful women. So, when you start putting the wheels in motion to get a date, even if you're just calling a woman to hang out, make sure that you bring the game plan. Don’t leave it to her, or she'll instantly see you as a bore who will never take control and who will never deliver the fun and excitement that she craves.

No.3 Asking For A Date

Just like asking for a kiss, don't do it. Beautiful  women want to be with men who are in control -- not little boys who have to ask for permission. So, in order to not blow it with a beautiful woman, don’t ask her if you can take her out -- tell her that it's what you're going to do. You're still "asking" her, of course, but you're doing it in a confident way. It's as simple as saying, “Let's hang out,” or “Hey, let’s go hiking together."

No.2 Asking For A Kiss

It's basic to everything I teach: A man never asks for a kiss. If you do, you may as well tell a woman right there that you're a desperate, insecure Wuss. Asking for a kiss is what little boys do, and it goes against everything that any woman is looking for in a man. Even though her polite answer might be “yes” and make you think things are going well, her actual attraction level on the inside will plunge to an absolute zero.

No.1 Working Too Hard To Impress Her

The fastest way to turn a beautiful woman off is to talk yourself up too much. When a guy goes off about his car or his job (or whatever), a woman will instantly classify him as either 1) full of it, or 2) having absolutely nothing else to offer. Bottom line: Even if you really do have it all going on, just hold back. She'll be much more impressed if she discovers for herself how awesome you are.

by syaq90

5 Signs He`s Into You

What’s a sure-sign that he’s absolutely crazy about you? When he showers you with flowers? When he gets jealous the minute you look at other men? Or when he stays at your place every night for a week? Actually - none of the above. If you’d like to be sure you’re not kidding yourself when you imagine the two of you together in the future - look to the little things he does, not the big showy romantic gestures. Here are the most 5 obvious signs that he’s serious about the relationship.

5.He Calls for No Reason

“Hi, what are you up to?”; “I thought I’d let you know I made a reservation for dinner as I said I would and it’s at 8 o’clock like we agreed” are the kind of comments that give away the real motive for this kind of call; he misses you; is head over heels for you and; can’t go one more second without speaking to you. While you talk he ignores all incoming calls and signs off “I can’t wait to see you again.” Give him extra points for thoughtfulness if he calls you at work and is sensitive enough to realise you can’t chat so he says “I won’t keep you because I know you’re busy but I just needed to hear your voice.”


4.He Takes an Interest in Your Interests

When a guy falls for you in a big way he’ll want to know everything about you and that includes a full understanding of your likes and dislikes. If your hobby is collecting retro furniture he’ll have the good grace to feign interest when you spend all afternoon scouring second hand shops - although he’d rather be home working on his car. Don’t worry - he’s not becoming a “yes” man - he’s simply trying to get closer to you in every part of your life - and sharing your interests is an obvious way to do it.

3.He Tunes In To Your Every Word

When you’re in a mid conversation at the cafe he doesn’t play with the fork nor is he distracted by the conversation at the next table. His eyes barely leave your face because he is hanging on every thing you say. He doesn’t dominate the discussion by interrupting, finishing your sentences or taking the conversation in a new direction. He is genuinely listening! It is clear in the way he laughs sincerely when you tell him something funny and responds to what you are saying by giving you is opinions on the subject, making helpful suggestions and sharing his own similar stories.

2.He Turns Up On Time

When he says he’s going to be there on the dot at 8pm, he’s never more than a few minutes late. And on the rare occasion he is held up he pays you the courtesy of calling so you don’t have to needlessly rush to get ready. This kind of punctuality might seem an insignificant thing - but it speaks volumes about his respect for you. It shows that he cares about what you think of him so he wants to demonstrate he’s reliable.

1.He Asks for Your Opinion

In just about every decision he makes - from which shirt to wear to a job interview to which kind of car he should buy, he solicits your opinion. This indicates that he respects what you have to say and that he believes you not only have good judgement but have skills, abilities and insights that can help him, improve his life.

10 Sexy Kissing Tips

1. If she is laying down draw one of her arms above her head and lightly hold her hand. Commence by kissing the soft area on the inside of her upper arm – from her elbow down to her chest. For variation, trail the tip of your tongue in a zigzag down this area. This absolutely drives my wife crazy! (submitted by Troy)
2. Kiss her gently near the clavicle (colar bone), then run your tongue in a zig zag up to her ear very slowly. Give her earlobe a little nibble. It’s all in the neck guys… (submitted by Dave)
3. When you’re sitting close to your love, start out by softly stroking their face, slowly move your hand to their mouth then very lightly brush the lower lip with one of your fingers. If they seem to love this, then place the tip of that finger in their mouth. My boyfriend loves this, and sometimes he’ll start sucking my finger a bit. This leads to a great french kiss! (submitted by KC)
4. Gently kiss your partner on the neck, cheek, jaw, and slowly move closer to his/her lips. When you reach their lips, they will be all the more excited to kiss you! My boyfriend sometimes does this and it drives me crazy! (submitted by Christi)
5. Start by pouring a glass of wine. Take a few sips to get the taste in your mouth. When you lead him to bed, bring the wine with you. While kissing him, dip your finger in the wine. Trace his lips and mouth with your wine-soaked finger and lick the wine off slowly and gently. Take your time. Kissing can be very erotic. (submitted by Heather)
6. I play a kissing game with my wife. The object of the game is to make your partner try to kiss you. This could be done by lightly kissing her neck, breathing into her ear, kissing her cheeks, and lightly kissing her lips. Whoever lasts the longest wins! (submitted by Guntes)
7. Sensually whisper something a litte bit naughty in their ear such as “I want you…” or make up your own. Let them feel your breath next to their ear, then kiss it and gently nibble it. Move down towards their neck and back up to their lips. This drives my husband crazy! (submitted by Gloria)
8. When kissing…try to catch his/her upper lip between your lips as you’re closing your mouth, and suck lightly before letting go. (submitted by Ryan)
9. When kissing really passionately, stroke the nape of his neck with your fingers. (submitted by Beth)
10. Think of why you like certain body parts of your love, or why you love to kiss those body parts. For each area, give them a quick kiss there, then whisper why you love that part. Move up and down their body sprinkling them with kisses and sweet words. (submitted by Nora)

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syaq90

How to Tell if He Likes You

Telling when a man likes you isn’t rocket science. There are definite signs, if you care to look. From body language to language patterns he is giving off constant signs as to whether he likes you.

How to Tell if a Man likes a Woman :When You’ve Never Spoken

Is there direct eye contact? Does his smile linger when he sees you? Is his body language open? Ex. Is he sitting with his arms crossed or hanging loosely at his side? Crossed arms are like a no trespassing signal. Open relaxed posture is like a welcome mat.

How to Tell if a Man likes a Woman :When You Have Spoken

Use his body as a road map. Are his eyes focused on you when you speak? Does he find excuses to be in the same room with you? Does he make physical contact when he talks to you? These are just a few signs that he may like you.Do you have good rapport? Does he laugh at your jokes? Can the two of you talk comfortably for long periods of time?

How to Tell if a Man likes a Woman :After the First Date

If a guy really likes you he will call, show up on time, and follow up. He actually wants to make a good impression. A man that truly likes you will go beyond common courtesy.In this respect men aren't that different than women. If you like someone you go out of your way to be nice to them. Men will do the same for women.

Next post is about 10 sexy kissing tips (:

sincerely,

syaq90