Imagine being able to practice the first impression. Wouldn’t it make approaching and talking to women at bars much easier with the confidence of thousands of first meetings under your belt? You could eliminate all of the odd small talk and uncomfortable pauses in which you’re thinking: ”She didn’t walk away, so what the hell do I say next?”
next are 5 tips to be GREAT!
No.5 - Focus on her
Greg sees it much too often: Guys who chat with women but do a hundred other things on their computers or in their rooms instead of paying attention to anything the woman has to say during the conversation. “And don’t forget direct eye contact,” Greg reminds chat users, “but don't stare her down. People don't like when you look at them 100% of the time; it gives them the ‘no’ feeling.”
In real life: When you’re talking to a woman at a bar she should be your main focus. Stop giggling at your friends making faces behind her back, don’t check your cell constantly and never scan around the room for other people to talk to or hit on. Pretend that she is the only person in the place for the next couple of minutes. Keep good eye contact, but don’t stare deep into her eyes. It’s creepy
No.4-Speak like a normal person
“Don’t try and fake it,” Greg explains, “and don't blatantly try to use the same type of language as her. Be cool about it. People feel connected to other people when their language is similar. If she is throwing in some swear words, then you should as well.”
In real life: An important lesson a guy can take from online chat is not to just speak in terms a woman would relate to, but don’t speak in terms she would have little interest in hearing. For example, if the conversation turns to your job, make the explanation as generic and simple as possible. No need to go into every excruciating detail about every facet of your job.
In real life: An important lesson a guy can take from online chat is not to just speak in terms a woman would relate to, but don’t speak in terms she would have little interest in hearing. For example, if the conversation turns to your job, make the explanation as generic and simple as possible. No need to go into every excruciating detail about every facet of your job.
No.3 - Don't oversell yourself
This seems to be a common and critical mistake in the online chat game. Greg explains: “Don't gloat. Don't get all up in the camera. Don't brag about monetary possessions. A girl can pick up on a guy when he is overselling, and it ruins the fun for her.” Be cool and somewhat mysterious.
In real life: Same principles apply; don’t try too hard to showboat yourself as the perfect guy. This isn’t a job interview. Save the PowerPoint presentation; she will draw her own conclusions about you through the course of the conversation.
In real life: Same principles apply; don’t try too hard to showboat yourself as the perfect guy. This isn’t a job interview. Save the PowerPoint presentation; she will draw her own conclusions about you through the course of the conversation.
No.2 - Use humor
Greg suggests first feeling out your chat partner to see how far you can take the joking. “Everyone loves a good joke,” he admits, “but it must be in good taste. Feel her out before you start making jokes that poke fun at her though. Poke fun at something she is wearing or something in her room, but it must be in good taste.”
In real life: Ask women the important traits they look for in a guy and they’ll all rattle off “a sense of humor.” It seems so simple -- keep it light and keep it funny. Meeting people is an uncomfortable situation for men and women alike, but if a guy can keep a woman laughing, it eases the tension and shows her that there is probably no need to be worried that he's a lunatic
In real life: Ask women the important traits they look for in a guy and they’ll all rattle off “a sense of humor.” It seems so simple -- keep it light and keep it funny. Meeting people is an uncomfortable situation for men and women alike, but if a guy can keep a woman laughing, it eases the tension and shows her that there is probably no need to be worried that he's a lunatic
No.1 - Have a wingwoman
While some might think it odd to have another person in the room while chatting, Greg sees it as a huge advantage to a guy looking to meet new women. “It shows that you are competent enough to have value to another woman. It also reassures the partner that you are not a creep looking for action. However, make sure she does not go on camera too much, they may think she is your wife/girlfriend.”
In real life: It doesn’t hurt to have female friends. Seeing a woman in a group of men is reassuring to other women. If possible, introduce the female friend early in the conversation and make it obvious that the two of you aren’t linked romantically. Mention her in passing and even use her as a conversation starter. Hopefully she starts a conversation with your wingwoman and it keeps her around for a while longer -- long enough for you to figure out how to move this conversation to an online chat because you are so damn nervous.
In real life: It doesn’t hurt to have female friends. Seeing a woman in a group of men is reassuring to other women. If possible, introduce the female friend early in the conversation and make it obvious that the two of you aren’t linked romantically. Mention her in passing and even use her as a conversation starter. Hopefully she starts a conversation with your wingwoman and it keeps her around for a while longer -- long enough for you to figure out how to move this conversation to an online chat because you are so damn nervous.
so i hope u all get the tips and try to use it carefully..
good luck!!
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